My Queen and I are equals. It’s part of the basis of O/our relationship. ‘But wait!’ I hear you cry, ‘Aren’t you part of a 24/7 total power exchange? Aren’t you Her submissive? Doesn’t she set your limits and tell you what you can and can’t do? How can you possibly be equals?!’ No, I’m not hallucinating and I’m even reasonably sure that I’m not going to get disciplined for saying this.
In O/our dynamic O/our roles and positions of power are totally opposite. My Queen has all the power to make decisions, control what I do, where I go, discipline me and so on. There is no equality in O/our roles at all. My Queen has all the power and authority and I have to do what She says. But W/we are still equals.
W/we share the understanding and belief that each of U/us is of equal worth, that W/we’re both equally worthwhile as people. My choice to submit to my Queen is not based out of a belief that I’m less worthwhile as a person and Her Domination of me is not based on Her believing that She is a better person than I am. O/our love and admiration for each other acknowledges that each of U/us is equally worth loving and equally important even if O/our lifestyle and O/our chosen dynamic is one where my Queen holds all the power.
It’s something I think is crucial as a submissive – knowing that I’m just as worthwhile as my Queen and it’s something that my Queen never fails to remind me of -especially when I need love or encouragement.
“W/we’re both equally worthwhile as people” well said – perhaps society needs that reminder in ALL aspects and relationships as well!
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Well stated, could not agree more… I feel that you see the importance of mutual “Love” in a FLR, the key to long term success and happiness.
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Reblogged this on Our FLR – Female Led Relationship and commented:
Well written post that shows why mutual love is the key to a successful FLR.
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Reblogged this on kennywblog and commented:
submitting to your partner is not debasing
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It often requires reinforcement from one’s partner when others belittle submission.
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Well said!
Goes for us all whatever relationship constellation we might choose.
Blomst
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